Sometimes a recipe is enough, sometimes you need a therapist

I have been emailing my stepdaughter in Australia about recipes.  She requested some of my “failsafe”, simple family favourites so I duly sent instructions out about what I do.  A slightly irate email came back as she had had disasters with her toffee banana ice-cream and the sour cream pastry.  She claims my recipes are not “foolproof” (her choice of words, not mine!).  It made me realise how difficult it can be to tell people what to do when you can’t see them, they can’t ask questions and you don’t know what they don’t know.

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What is going on when change seems impossible?

How many times have you made a sensible decision that you know is attainable and which you know you want to implement.  You may have even checked that it is SMART or run it through a well-formed outcomes analysis if you have any knowledge of NLP.  Yes this is the decision that you need and want and it passes all the rational decision making criteria that you know about.

So how come after half an hour, a day or even a week, you find yourself doing the opposite of what you had absolutely, definitely decided you were going to do every day/never again.   It can feel as if someone else taken over the controls to your life.

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