Sprout curry can make you more confident

Now this is something you won’t find me giving a recipe for.  It is a favourite of a client of mine but even she admitted it was an acquired taste.  (Should I ever be invited onto Saturday Kitchen sprouts would definitely feature in my food hell choice).  But it serves beautifully to exemplify how different our small pleasures are.  Whilst this may be blindingly obvious, what is less obvious is that it is, according to William Bloom, vital to seek out and create positive experiences – of all kinds – so that we manage the body chemistry that keeps us well.  In his book, Feeling Safe, he shares many thoughts about how to protect yourself against stress and negativity and how to build inner confidence and strength.

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Sometimes a recipe is enough, sometimes you need a therapist

I have been emailing my stepdaughter in Australia about recipes.  She requested some of my “failsafe”, simple family favourites so I duly sent instructions out about what I do.  A slightly irate email came back as she had had disasters with her toffee banana ice-cream and the sour cream pastry.  She claims my recipes are not “foolproof” (her choice of words, not mine!).  It made me realise how difficult it can be to tell people what to do when you can’t see them, they can’t ask questions and you don’t know what they don’t know.

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What is going on when change seems impossible?

How many times have you made a sensible decision that you know is attainable and which you know you want to implement.  You may have even checked that it is SMART or run it through a well-formed outcomes analysis if you have any knowledge of NLP.  Yes this is the decision that you need and want and it passes all the rational decision making criteria that you know about.

So how come after half an hour, a day or even a week, you find yourself doing the opposite of what you had absolutely, definitely decided you were going to do every day/never again.   It can feel as if someone else taken over the controls to your life.

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How to become more intelligent

I was very cheered to read in the Sunday Times this week that there is no one gene for intelligence.  Since it is difficult even to define intelligence in a generally acceptable way, it is perhaps no surprise that scientists have not found one, or even a few, genes that are responsible for it.   What would they be responsible for exactly?   But that is another post.   The consensus is that there are lots of genes which all contribute in a small way to our cognitive skills.

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