Sometimes a recipe is enough, sometimes you need a therapist

I have been emailing my stepdaughter in Australia about recipes.  She requested some of my “failsafe”, simple family favourites so I duly sent instructions out about what I do.  A slightly irate email came back as she had had disasters with her toffee banana ice-cream and the sour cream pastry.  She claims my recipes are not “foolproof” (her choice of words, not mine!).  It made me realise how difficult it can be to tell people what to do when you can’t see them, they can’t ask questions and you don’t know what they don’t know.

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What is going on when change seems impossible?

How many times have you made a sensible decision that you know is attainable and which you know you want to implement.  You may have even checked that it is SMART or run it through a well-formed outcomes analysis if you have any knowledge of NLP.  Yes this is the decision that you need and want and it passes all the rational decision making criteria that you know about.

So how come after half an hour, a day or even a week, you find yourself doing the opposite of what you had absolutely, definitely decided you were going to do every day/never again.   It can feel as if someone else taken over the controls to your life.

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Why tall people earn more and how you can look taller

I intended to listen to Daniel Finkelstein on Radio 4 this morning but missed it, and for some reason it is not on iplayer.  The programme is basically about pay but he touched on the issue of why tall, attractive people earn more.  This is an idea that I am acquainted with and there has been quite a lot of research that suggests this is true.  Sad, perhaps, but true.  Sad not just because tall, beautiful people are richer, but also because the benefits extend to lots of areas of life.  They are also more likely to get off in court (so make sure you look your best when you go to plead to get off your parking fine), are more likely to be offered jobs in the first place, have more friends and be considered more intelligent.  These are just some of the benefits I can remember off the top of my head.

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